I wish I had a nickel for every time I hear the phrase “the cycle of abuse.” It’s constant. People say about victims,”she really needs to break the cycle!” (This makes me so angry! As if the victim could do that anyway, when she has no control of the abuse – its not HER behavior!)
Here’s what you need to know. There IS NO “cycle” of abuse. We don’t need to be using that term. If you use it, please stop.
DV Expert Julie Owens at Voices of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston-Salem on 4/11/19
The cycle theory of abuse is no longer used by professionals in this field because we understand DV much, much better after decades of work with victims, and learning from them.
Every town hall is a unique experience. The Voice of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston Salem on 4/11/19 included experts, survivors, current warriors with powerful stories and valuable information to share! Event summary here.
Panel and Characteristics of Abusers slide. Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga
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The weekly Tuesdays With Tillis protests continue into and beyond the 116th consecutive week of rallies around Senator Thom Tillis’ office in Raleigh. The topic on Tuesday, April 9, was the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). NC NOW President Gailya Paliga was one of the speakers, but messages about violence against women were also conveyed through song and chants. Karen Ziegler set the agenda and got discussion going on how “violence against women is a red line that runs through the Trump Administration.” There was also singing, chanting, marching, and interactive discussion of issues.
Photo Credit: Jacalyn Engler
Congress is in the process of reauthorizing the 25 year old Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) this spring (April 2019). VAWA expired last fall, when Congress was distracted with other issues. Here is some background on VAWA and on changes to improve it in 2019. Sources at end.
What is going on with domestic violence right now?
April is #SexualAssaultAwarenessMonth and women, and women’s organizations including NOW are urging Congress to reauthorize the Violence Against Women’s Act, VAWA. The bill is #HR1585, the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act. Learn about it here and see what you can do to help move #VAWA along.
HR1585 is a bipartisan bill to reauthorize VAWA for 5 years. It makes modest yet vital improvements that are necessary to prevent domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence and stalking, and to hold offenders accountable. #VAWA gets reauthorized every 5 years. National NOW published an action alert on reauthorizing #VAWA19 on 3/15/19.
The National Task Force to End Sexual & Domestic Violence answered some important questions about VAWA and #HR1585 for people, as follows.
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PRESS ADVISORY For Immediate Release
Raleigh, NC, 1/21/19
2019 Raleigh Women’s March
A Women’s March Anniversary Event More than 1,000 Women and Allies Expected
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Quotes from some of the speakers and performers at the 2019 Raleigh Women’s March. Such impressive speakers and we would prefer to be able to capture each speech and performance, but here are some pearls of wisdom. Performers got their messages across in their own unique ways.
Longtime activist Mandy Carter was one of our EmCees and also our speaker on LGBTQ issues.
Event emcees – Ashley Popio and Mandy Carter Photo Credit: Women Mobilizing NC
“I’ve been wondering how change happens. And I think the best way to describe it is the changing of hearts and minds and public policy.” – Mandy Carter
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The impetus for the Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall was a restraining order against Rep. Cody Henson (R-Transylvania) that it took almost a year for his wife to get. But this story was the tip of the iceberg as experts and victims talked about the realities of violence against women, domestic violence in North Carolina, how things are worse for victims in small towns, and victims in different communities (like the African American community).
“Speakers emphasized the insidious nature of domestic violence as a crime that often goes unreported or unpunished and for which societal norms and laws often fail to remedy. ” As reported by Carolina Public Press, in “Domestic violence in spotlight during forum on lawmaker’s home turf,” 2/19/19.
Abigail Cooley from SAFE, Transylvania. Photo Credit: Ellie Wood
Expert’s words really surprised many attendees who had no idea how bad things are in North Carolina. Survivor stories were shocking and heartbreaking.
February 18, 2019
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CONTACT: Gailya Paliga, President of NC NOW (National Organization for Women), www.northcarolinanow.org
After a State Lawmaker from Transylvania Co. is served a Domestic Violence Protective Order, Advocacy Groups to Hold Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall Meeting in Brevard
Local groups to discuss need for education, enforcement, and support.
BREVARD, NC – After NC House Rep. Cody Henson (R-Brevard) was served domestic violence protective order, and after reports that the alleged victim had trouble getting a local judge to respond quickly to her complaints, advocacy groups on Monday evening will host a domestic violence awareness town hall meeting at Brevard College to underscore the need for education, enforcement, and support for victims of domestic violence.