Upcoming events with Fayetteville Chapter of NOW for December 2019 through January 2020.
Fayetteville NOW’s “Believe Women” rally in October 2018 Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga
- Saturday December 7, 11:00 am, Lafayette Memorial Park, 2301 Ramsey Street. Wreath Laying on the Grave of Beryl Mitchell – victim of Domestic Violence (DV). To raise awareness of DV. We’ll go to lunch afterwards. Contact Roberta at email@example.com.
Read about this annual wreath laying event that Fayetteville NOW does at https://wp.me/p22b2e-1uC.
Fayetteville NOW has an on-going court watch program in which they observe mostly domestic violence cases. Fayetteville NOW Court Watchers are required to be NOW members, attend a training session and go to court with a NOW Court Watcher and submit a report to be certified. Once certified, we ask that watchers attend court at least once a month and submit a report afterwards.
Fayetteville NOW is offering a Court Watch Training on Wednesday, November 20, at 10:00 am at the Rape Crisis Center, 519 Ramsey Street. Fayetteville NOW offers the initial training to non-NOW members but to complete the process, trainees must be NOW Members.
Fayetteville NOW’s Cynthia Mixon Photo Credit: Pam Carver
The NFL is still broken – things look the same as they did when Ray Rice knocked out his then girlfriend in an elevator. Nothing was done about Rice until someone released the video of him actually knocking her out and dragging her unconscious body out of the elevator. The video of them going in with her upright and being dragged out was not enough. More shockingly, before the video was released, the NFL made special pink jerseys promoting him to women! That is right – the pink jerseys had abuser Ray Rice’s number on it. They are ignoring charges of rape and sexual assault brought up against Antonio Brown now, similarly, although so far without the pink jersey.
NOW says “the NFL’s message is clear–there’s too much money resting on Brown’s career to keep him from playing, or to seriously address the league’s systemic culture of violence against women.”
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and the Violence Against Women Act has still not been reauthorized – over a year after it should have been reauthorized, and over 6 months since the House of Representatives passed it. Let’s push our US Senators to do their jobs!
Posted in do your job, domestic violence, doyourjob, Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment, VAWA, violence against women
Tagged domestic violence, doyourjob, Sexual Assault, VAWA, violence against women
Annual Remember My Name Domestic Violence Vigil in Fayetteville on Thursday, Oct 10, 2019
This event recognizes those individuals who have died during the past year as a result of domestic violence (DV). Join Fayetteville NOW members as Fayetteville pauses to remember DV victims this year as they do every year.
Cumberland County Courthouse Photo Credit: nccourts.com
You can go directly to the full legislative update, NC_NOW_Legislative_Update #24 (29Jul19), which includes the week’s summary and bill listings. Written by Robin Davis, NC NOW Vice President of Political Action and Lobbyist. Summary includes the state budget impasse and a lawmaker has resigned his seat after pleading guilty to cyberstalking his estranged wife.
Still no vote on whether to override the governor’s veto of the budget and no progress to report on a stand-alone bill to expand Medicaid. The Winston-Salem Journal reported, “As has been the pattern for 11 consecutive sessions, neither the veto override vote nor the bipartisan Medicaid expansion legislation House Bill 655 was addressed.” “The next opportunity will come Monday night [7/29/19], which would represent Day 32 of the stalemate.” See: https://www.journalnow.com/news/state/n-c-house-pushes-possible-votes-on-state-budget-veto/article_00c86259-3fb7-5758-9ed5-9aff47c9c693.html
Posted in budget, cyberstalking, domestic violence, Medicaid, medicaid expansion, state budget issues, veto
Tagged budget, cyberstalking, domestic violence, medicaid, medicaid expansion, state budget
Update on situation with Rep. Cody Henson (R-Transylvania). The restraining order against Henson, and the trouble Henson’s now estranged wife had getting it in small town North Carolina, were the impetus for a Town Hall in Brevard last February and another Town Hall in Winston-Salem in April. Henson was in the news in June 2019, for missing court, but the bigger news hit on July 23, when he finally made it to court (after yet another postponement). Henson actually pleaded guilty to cyberstalking his estranged wife, and he resigned the next day.
Partial Panel at Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall in Brevard NC on 2/18/19. Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga
The statistics are shocking: A woman is murdered by a male, intimate partner with a gun every 16 hours; one in five women and one in 29 men are raped in their lifetimes; one in four women and one in seven men experience severe physical abuse by an intimate partner in their lifetimes; one in six women and one in 19 men experience stalking in their lifetimes; and these acts disproportionately impact women and members of underserved communities.
#VAWA is topic at Tuesdays With Tillis event on 4/9/19. Senator Tillis has an office at this Federal Building in Raleigh. Photo credit: Jacalyn Engler
I am writing today to urge our community and our elected officials to support the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) with necessary enhancements and specific, targeted fixes. VAWA, for which authorization lapsed mid-February 2019, saves lives, supports families, and needs to be reauthorized promptly. A strong, bipartisan VAWA reauthorization bill (H.R. 1585) passed the House of Representatives by a vote of 263-158. The Senate is currently working on its own bill, and it must be substantially similar to the House bill to:
I wish I had a nickel for every time I hear the phrase “the cycle of abuse.” It’s constant. People say about victims,”she really needs to break the cycle!” (This makes me so angry! As if the victim could do that anyway, when she has no control of the abuse – its not HER behavior!)
Here’s what you need to know. There IS NO “cycle” of abuse. We don’t need to be using that term. If you use it, please stop.
DV Expert Julie Owens at Voices of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston-Salem on 4/11/19
The cycle theory of abuse is no longer used by professionals in this field because we understand DV much, much better after decades of work with victims, and learning from them.
Every town hall is a unique experience. The Voice of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston Salem on 4/11/19 included experts, survivors, current warriors with powerful stories and valuable information to share! Event summary here.
Panel and Characteristics of Abusers slide. Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga
Posted in Child Abuse, domestic violence, education, Guns, Rape, safety for women, sexual abuse, violence against women
Tagged Child Abuse, domestic violence, Rape, safety for women, sexual abuse