The statistics are shocking: A woman is murdered by a male, intimate partner with a gun every 16 hours; one in five women and one in 29 men are raped in their lifetimes; one in four women and one in seven men experience severe physical abuse by an intimate partner in their lifetimes; one in six women and one in 19 men experience stalking in their lifetimes; and these acts disproportionately impact women and members of underserved communities.
#VAWA is topic at Tuesdays With Tillis event on 4/9/19. Senator Tillis has an office at this Federal Building in Raleigh. Photo credit: Jacalyn Engler
I am writing today to urge our community and our elected officials to support the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) with necessary enhancements and specific, targeted fixes. VAWA, for which authorization lapsed mid-February 2019, saves lives, supports families, and needs to be reauthorized promptly. A strong, bipartisan VAWA reauthorization bill (H.R. 1585) passed the House of Representatives by a vote of 263-158. The Senate is currently working on its own bill, and it must be substantially similar to the House bill to:
There are some excellent documentaries available. Here are a few, including “Seeing Allred” (about women’s rights attorney Gloria Allred), Equal Means Equal (unequal rights for women and girls in the U.S.), RBG (Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg), Trapped (about TRAP laws limiting or stopping access to abortion clinics), and more.
1. Seeing Allred, About Women’s Rights Attorney Gloria Allred.
“Seeing Allred” is a 2018 documentary about women’s rights attorney Gloria Allred. It shows what one woman can do. The film intertwines the stories of Ms. Allred’s life with her persistence in going after actor Bill Cosby with what ended up being 50 women willing to speak out about what he did to them.
This film may really change your perception about who Ms Allred is, but also about how telling stories can heal, and what one woman’s persistence can do.
Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga
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I wish I had a nickel for every time I hear the phrase “the cycle of abuse.” It’s constant. People say about victims,”she really needs to break the cycle!” (This makes me so angry! As if the victim could do that anyway, when she has no control of the abuse – its not HER behavior!)
Here’s what you need to know. There IS NO “cycle” of abuse. We don’t need to be using that term. If you use it, please stop.
DV Expert Julie Owens at Voices of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston-Salem on 4/11/19
The cycle theory of abuse is no longer used by professionals in this field because we understand DV much, much better after decades of work with victims, and learning from them.
NC_NOW_Legislative_Update_#12.22Apr19.v2 includes the summary and listing of NC Senate and House bills. Written by Robin Davis, NC NOW Vice President of Political Action.
Veto of Junk Science Anti-Abortion Bill, Some Good Bills, and a Fair Ruling
The good news is that Governor Cooper has vetoed SB359, The Born-Alive Abortion Survivors Protection Act. The bill swept through the legislature last week at dizzying speed, and the Governor vetoed it almost as soon as it hit his desk.
“Laws already protect newborn babies and this bill is an unnecessary interference between doctors and their patients,” the Democratic governor said in his veto message. “This needless legislation would criminalize doctors and other healthcare providers for a practice that simply does not exist.”
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Quotes from some of the speakers and performers at the 2019 Raleigh Women’s March. Such impressive speakers and we would prefer to be able to capture each speech and performance, but here are some pearls of wisdom. Performers got their messages across in their own unique ways.
Longtime activist Mandy Carter was one of our EmCees and also our speaker on LGBTQ issues.
Event emcees – Ashley Popio and Mandy Carter Photo Credit: Women Mobilizing NC
“I’ve been wondering how change happens. And I think the best way to describe it is the changing of hearts and minds and public policy.” – Mandy Carter
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The impetus for the Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall was a restraining order against Rep. Cody Henson (R-Transylvania) that it took almost a year for his wife to get. But this story was the tip of the iceberg as experts and victims talked about the realities of violence against women, domestic violence in North Carolina, how things are worse for victims in small towns, and victims in different communities (like the African American community).
“Speakers emphasized the insidious nature of domestic violence as a crime that often goes unreported or unpunished and for which societal norms and laws often fail to remedy. ” As reported by Carolina Public Press, in “Domestic violence in spotlight during forum on lawmaker’s home turf,” 2/19/19.
Abigail Cooley from SAFE, Transylvania. Photo Credit: Ellie Wood
Expert’s words really surprised many attendees who had no idea how bad things are in North Carolina. Survivor stories were shocking and heartbreaking.
February 18, 2019
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
CONTACT: Gailya Paliga, President of NC NOW (National Organization for Women), www.northcarolinanow.org
After a State Lawmaker from Transylvania Co. is served a Domestic Violence Protective Order, Advocacy Groups to Hold Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall Meeting in Brevard
Local groups to discuss need for education, enforcement, and support.
BREVARD, NC – After NC House Rep. Cody Henson (R-Brevard) was served domestic violence protective order, and after reports that the alleged victim had trouble getting a local judge to respond quickly to her complaints, advocacy groups on Monday evening will host a domestic violence awareness town hall meeting at Brevard College to underscore the need for education, enforcement, and support for victims of domestic violence.
For Immediate Release
CONTACT: Gailya Paliga, President of NC NOW
February 15, 2019
Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall Event in Brevard
NC NOW (National Organization for Women), SAFE Transylvania, and Progress NC have come together to bring community awareness to this very real problem.
WHAT: Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall
WHEN: Monday, February 18, 2019 from 6:30 PM – 8:00 PM
WHERE: Scott Commons, Brevard College at 1 Brevard College Drive, Brevard, NC 28712
Brevard, NC – Domestic violence is a serious issue in the US and in North Carolina.
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When our public figures are accused of domestic violence (DV), we can use the opportunity to widen awareness of what DV victims face, and how it impacts victims in rural areas differently. Getting help is complicated when the alleged abuser is a public figure. It took nearly a year for the wife of an elected official to get a restraining order against her husband in Western North Carolina. Rep. Cody Henson (R-Transylvania) was served with a 50B Ex Parte Domestic Violence Order of Protection on Jan. 31 , 2019. The situation is being revealed so far in news articles in Transylvania County and Buncombe County. The issue of domestic violence is being explored in public forums, which are currently planned for February and March of 2019.
NOW sign at grave of Fayetteville woman murdered by her husband. Fayetteville NOW does an annual vigil there. Photo Credit: Roberta Waddle
On 2/7/19, The Carolina Public Press published that an “NC legislator served with domestic violence order of protection,” 2/7/19, Carolina Public Press.
“His wife, Kelsey Henson, told Carolina Public Press on Thursday [2/7/19] that she sought help for nearly a year from law enforcement and others from behavior she describes in court filings as harassment and emotional abuse.”
“Ladies all across the world
Listen up, we’re looking for recruits
If you with me, lemme see your hands
Stand up and salute
Get your killer heels, sneakers, pumps or lace up your boots
Representing all the women, salute, salute.”
“Salute” by Little Mix
Audrey Muck aptly chose this song as accompaniment to her update on the ERA, inspiring us to dance in and out of our seats – much needed during the 2pm time slot! The Women Rising Up NOW! 2018 State Conference couldn’t have come at a better time for me personally: deeply discouraged by the confirmation of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court, following two back to back trips to Washington DC to join the “angry mob” of dedicated women, survivors and allies from across the country in bird-dogging, direct actions, and speak-outs at the U.S. Senate and at the Supreme Court, I missed the company of kindred spirits acutely.
Photo Credit: Jenn Alexander
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