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The NFL Is Still Broken – Antonio Brown Is Latest

The NFL is still broken – things look the same as they did when Ray Rice knocked out his then girlfriend in an elevator. Nothing was done about Rice until someone released the video of him actually knocking her out and dragging her unconscious body out of the elevator. The video of them going in with her upright and being dragged out was not enough. More shockingly, before the video was released, the NFL made special pink jerseys promoting him to women! That is right – the pink jerseys had abuser Ray Rice’s number on it. They are ignoring charges of rape and sexual assault brought up against Antonio Brown now, similarly, although so far without the pink jersey.

NOW says “the NFL’s message is clear–there’s too much money resting on Brown’s career to keep him from playing, or to seriously address the league’s systemic culture of violence against women.”

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Take Action: TweetStorm to push VAWA on 10/16/19 during DVAM

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and the Violence Against Women Act has still not been reauthorized – over a year after it should have been reauthorized, and over 6 months since the House of Representatives passed it. Let’s push our US Senators to do their jobs! 

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Remember My Name Domestic Violence Vigil – 10/10/19 in Fayetteville

Annual Remember My Name Domestic Violence Vigil in Fayetteville on Thursday, Oct 10, 2019

This event recognizes those individuals who have died during the past year as a result of domestic violence (DV). Join Fayetteville NOW members as Fayetteville  pauses to remember DV victims this year as they do every year.

Cumberland County Courthouse

Cumberland County Courthouse Photo Credit: nccourts.com

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NC NOW Legislative Update #24 – 7/29/19

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You can go directly to the full legislative update, NC_NOW_Legislative_Update #24 (29Jul19), which includes the week’s summary and bill listings. Written by Robin Davis, NC NOW Vice President of Political Action and Lobbyist. Summary includes the state budget impasse and a lawmaker has resigned his seat after pleading guilty to cyberstalking his estranged wife.

Still no vote on whether to override the governor’s veto of the budget and no progress to report on a stand-alone bill to expand Medicaid. The Winston-Salem Journal reported, “As has been the pattern for 11 consecutive sessions, neither the veto override vote nor the bipartisan Medicaid expansion legislation House Bill 655 was addressed.” “The next opportunity will come Monday night [7/29/19], which would represent Day 32 of the stalemate.” See: https://www.journalnow.com/news/state/n-c-house-pushes-possible-votes-on-state-budget-veto/article_00c86259-3fb7-5758-9ed5-9aff47c9c693.html

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Cyberstalking Case Prosecuted, Lawmaker Resigns – 7/24/19

Update on situation with Rep. Cody Henson (R-Transylvania). The restraining order against Henson, and the trouble Henson’s now estranged wife had getting it in small town North Carolina, were the impetus for a Town Hall in Brevard last February and another Town Hall in Winston-Salem in AprilHenson was in the news in June 2019, for missing court, but the bigger news hit on July 23, when he finally made it to court (after yet another postponement). Henson actually pleaded guilty to cyberstalking his estranged wife, and he resigned the next day.

Partial Panel at Domestic Violence Awareness Town Hall in Brevard NC on 2/18/19. Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga

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De Pas: Shocking VAWA Statistics; US Senators, Do Your Job!

The statistics are shocking: A woman is murdered by a male, intimate partner with a gun every 16 hours; one in five women and one in 29 men are raped in their lifetimes; one in four women and one in seven men experience severe physical abuse by an intimate partner in their lifetimes; one in six women and one in 19 men experience stalking in their lifetimes; and these acts disproportionately impact women and members of underserved communities.

#VAWA is topic at Tuesdays With Tillis event on 4/9/19. Senator Tillis has an office at this Federal Building in Raleigh. Photo credit: Jacalyn Engler

                I am writing today to urge our community and our elected officials to support the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) with necessary enhancements and specific, targeted fixes. VAWA, for which authorization lapsed mid-February 2019, saves lives, supports families, and needs to be reauthorized promptly. A strong, bipartisan VAWA reauthorization bill (H.R. 1585) passed the House of Representatives by a vote of 263-158. The Senate is currently working on its own bill, and it must be substantially similar to the House bill to:

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Owens: There Is No Cycle Of Abuse

I wish I had a nickel for every time I hear the phrase “the cycle of abuse.” It’s constant. People say about victims,”she really needs to break the cycle!” (This makes me so angry! As if the victim could do that anyway, when she has no control of the abuse – its not HER behavior!)

Here’s what you need to know. There IS NO “cycle” of abuse. We don’t need to be using that term. If you use it, please stop.

DV Expert Julie Owens at Voices of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston-Salem on 4/11/19

The cycle theory of abuse is no longer used by professionals in this field because we understand DV much, much better after decades of work with victims, and learning from them.

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Voices of Domestic Violence Town Hall – Triad – 4/11/19

Every town hall is a unique experience. The Voice of Domestic Violence Town Hall in Winston Salem on 4/11/19 included experts, survivors, current warriors with powerful stories and valuable information to share! Event summary here.

Panel and Characteristics of Abusers slide. Photo Credit: Gailya Paliga

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VAWA was Topic of 116th Week with Tuesdays With Tillis – 4/9/19

The weekly Tuesdays With Tillis protests continue into and beyond the 116th consecutive week of rallies around Senator Thom Tillis’ office in Raleigh. The topic on Tuesday, April 9, was the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). NC NOW President Gailya Paliga was one of the speakers, and messages about violence against women were also conveyed through song and chants. Karen Ziegler was the emcee. There was also singing, chanting, marching, and interactive discussion of issues.

Photo Credit: Jacalyn Engler

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About the Violence Against Women Act

Congress is in the process of reauthorizing the 25 year old Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) this spring (April 2019). VAWA expired last fall, when Congress was distracted with other issues. Here is some background on VAWA and on changes to improve it in 2019. Sources at end.

What is going on with domestic violence right now?

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